Improve Your Self Confidence Today!

What does self confidence mean to you?

It’s something that I guarantee at some point in your life, you’ve said you want to improve.

“I want to be more confident. I want to feel better in my own skin”.

But what does that mean to you? Because without knowing what’s fuelling that or what it would look like, it’s hard to know what you’re aiming for.

With my VIP clients, I ask them to set goals, but also tell me WHY. To tell me what it means to them, how it looks to them but also how much value it holds to them.

Because when we attach value to something it makes it more real. It makes a goal more worthwhile. We understand why we are doing something and then we can remind ourselves, when things inevitably feel tough.

So if I said to you; “hey, what does being self confident mean to you?” your answer will probably look different to mine, or the next person I asked.

Which is completely normal. Because you are your own person. You have your own lifestyle, hobbies, responsibilities, preferences, goals and resources available to you!

Let me let you into a secret. Self confidence isn’t a size, scale weight, look or body fat percentage. You might “feel better” in yourself or feel more comfortable, but your self confidence shouldn’t be entirely pinned on how you look. Because this is a fluctuating thing. Meaning it’s subject to change. You can’t predict it, you can’t always have total control over it and it’s likely to change at difference stages of your life.

If your self worth changes each time you’ve eaten a bigger meal, or you go on holiday with friends or you’ve had to prioritise things differently temporarily, you probably need to work on your relationship with your body.

You might think you’d be more confident if you were smaller, leaner or more “toned”. But if you’re not doing the mindset work to improve your relationship with your body in general, no amount of dieting will help you.

This guy has just realised his yo-yo dieting haven’t made him more confident

Because true body confidence is having belief and trust in your body. It’s accepting and embracing the body you’ve been given. Respecting it unconditionally. Regardless of how it looks at that time. It’s appreciating what your body allows you to do and how you’re able to show up as a result.

Body confidence might show up like 👇

🤌🏼 wearing shorts to take your children to the park this summer.

🤌🏼 Buying and wearing that outfit you’ve eyed up, because you actually want to.

🤌🏼 Signing up to a fitness challenge that’s ambitious but having the belief in yourself anyway.

🤌🏼 Wearing an outfit to a pride celebration that actually gives you body euphoria and ownership.

🤌🏼 Being fine with being in photos at your pals birthday party rather than running and hiding. Because memories >

🤌🏼 Walking into a meeting with head high, shoulders back and owning your space.

🤌🏼 Not feeling like your body or appearance inhibit you from doing anything you want to in life.

For me, it’s knowing I’m building a capable, resilient, healthy body that allows me to do the things I love. Being able to see past how I feel when looking in a mirror. Over my own fitness journey, I’ve learnt that my worth is more than surface level alone.

I sometimes feel at my most confident, when by beauty standards I look my worst. Sweaty, chalk all over, wearing a mismatching outfit, hair out of place and after smashing a challenging workout. Because I feel accomplished, proud and on a buzz.

Ru Paul drag queens know the tea.

Body confidence isn’t an end destination. It’s ongoing. Because confidence grows with practice, momentum and the more you do something.